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In the late 1990s, dating was still fairly low tech. In my search for love, I had to place a personal in an actual physical magazine and they would send the actual physical replies to my ï¬‚at. Guardian Soulmates took it up a notch: you recorded a greeting, and then phoned in nervously to listen to any messages left for you. I received just the one. It said: 'Actually, you sound rather boring, I don't think I'll bother.'
So has the dawn of apps made the game of love even more cruel? On p.46, Hannah Potts looks at the evidence. If that leaves you hankering for a bit of kindness and compassion, Lee Rowland (p.30) and Paul Gilbert (p.36) have it covered.
For more on dating and attraction, why not revisit the very ï¬rst episode of our Research Digest podcast PsychCrunch, via digest (bps.org.uk/podcast).
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